I’ve reached the end of my queue, so I should let you all know that I’ve remade and this blog will probably be permanently an archive. I’m really not happy about it, since I worked hard on stuff here, and I’ve had good experiences, and I’m going to miss you all. But watching people mock the fact that I was suicidal was the last straw. I think I got most of you, but mutuals, if you want the new url, message me- I’ll be reblogging and checking this for the next day or so.

Very very sad to be leaving here. I hope I can find you all again. In any case, thanks for the great times I’ve had here.

bahahahamilton:

everyone deserves to see anthony as the puppy dog snapchat filter. everyone.

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my-nameless-bliss:

not to be dramatic but prince zuko’s redemption arc is the greatest storyline in all of literary history

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silvermarmoset:

I haven’t seen anything about this on my dash, so I just want to draw attention to Anniesa Hasibuan, a Muslim designer who presented a glittering line of hijab-wearing models at this year’s New York Fashion Week.

Above are a few looks from the line; you can find more at this link and at Anniesa’s Instagram. Here’s the designer herself, glowing after her success!

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maikoa:

I wouldn’t say forever21 is a liminal space but it’s definitely a place of concentrated dark chaotic energy

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cottoncandlesticks:

Take a break

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Anonymous asked: to add to the whole "aces taking resources" bs remember when the Trevor project started training their counselors on dealing with suicidal aces and lgbt allos flipped their shit and said we were taking their resources. they literally don't care if aces kill themselves and actively promote practices that ensure we'll continue to do so.

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everythingbutthekitchensphinx:

Oh it was even WORSE than that.

For people who weren’t there in 2011/2012, a very common refrain from acephobes was that asexuality did not exist. Instead, they argued that ALL asexual people were actually gay but had so much internalized homophobia we literally stopped experiencing sexual attraction. All we had to do was unlearn the harmful things we had been taught by society about gay people, and then we’d start experiencing sexual attraction to people of the same gender and everything would be wonderful! And yes, this fed into a different point that is still floating around in a new form today - that being, the belief that the existence of asexuality is dangerous to questioning gay youth. They felt that gay youth would just convince themselves that they’re ace instead of embracing their same gender attraction, because being ace is “easier” and “less scary” than getting rid of internalized homophobia.

(I literally can not imagine what it was like for homoromantic asexual people on tumblr back then, I cringe thinking about it.) (And if you’re wondering, but Sphinx, what about bisexuality? I never saw these people mention it as a possibility… ever. Bisexuality was simply not part of the conversation.)

So when the Trevor Project announced they were teaching their staff how to deal with suicidal asexual youth, these people hit the roof. Multiple people wrote posts about how harmful this would be - to confused gay youth. There was a strange line of thought going around that if these counselors knew about asexuality, they would start convincing confused gay youth they were really asexual. Its been so long that I’m fuzzy on why they believed this would happen. I think it was tied to another very old argument you don’t see much anymore, which is that homophobic Christian conservatives love asexual people and if they knew about asexuality, they would 1) abuse their gay children into being ace, or 2) their closeted gay children would brainwash themselves into thinking they were ace because then their parents would accept them.

So that was the reasoning that led to the WORST part of all of the backlash. Which was… I saw multiple people state that what these people working for the Trevor Project really needed to do, what would be the absolute best thing for everyone, was to question the identities of the kids calling in. The suicidal kids, mind you. To encourage them to question their internalized homophobia, to ask them - are you SURE you’re asexual and not gay? Why do you think that? What’s wrong with being gay? Are you SURE this isn’t the result of internalized homophobia?

Because that’s what a young suicidal person needs when they call an LGBT+ hotline! Identity policing! Hooray. e.o

(And before anyone thinks I’m hating on LG people here… it’s very hard to talk about this period of tumblr history, because I’d say a large chunk of those acephobes identified solely as queer. No other labels. And several of the ones I saw discussing their attraction, if their attractions/ways of defining their attractions did not change from that time period, would fit into the pansexual box now. It’s not about LG people versus ace people (hello some people fit in both of those boxes!), it’s about acephobes versus ace people, and sometimes how the aphobia perpetrated by fellow community members is different than aphobia from straight people.)

As someone who grew up in a homophobic Christian community and family, and was trying to ID as asexual since middle school (sure wish I’d kept my mouth shut) I can promise you they do not love asexuals. I’ve been explicitly told that unconsummated marriage is a sin, therefore if I get married I must do the ‘right’ thing and have sex, or not get married. To quote myself, in the extreme Christian community “the whole point of virginity is to lose it” in the way and at the time they expect you to. The irony of all this is that many of these people claim to support SGA aces, and therefore me as a bi ace now, but literally couldn’t give a shit about my suicidal thoughts when I was young and still identified as heteroromantic ace. And don’t write my experiences off as ‘just misogyny’ when it’s not just my female cousins who were forced to attend purity balls. Everyone is expected to conform to heterosexual behavior in marriage, even though guys get more leeway.

My comeback to this as a kid was ‘who would Jesus do?!?! nobody! I’m fine this way!’ you can imagine how well that went.

victoriousvocabulary:

EPAGOGE 

[noun] 

Logic: the adducing of particular examples so as to lead to a universal conclusion; the argument by induction. 

Etymology: from Greek epagōgḗ, “a bringing to, argument by induction, equivalent to ep-, “upon; on; over; near” + agōgḗ, “guide, method” (derivative of ágein, “to lead”).

[Daniel Martin Diaz - Soul of Science]

astrape:

Biggest difference for me between Judaism and Christianity (and actually a few others as well) is the concept that we aren’t meant to suffer. Hashem isn’t planning for us to suffer. Our path to Hashem isn’t through tests of pain. The way to improve our relationship with Hashem is to lessen the suffering of others, to fight for justice, while taking care not to put ourselves in a situation where we would be the victims of suffering. Hashem doesn’t ask us to sacrifice ourselves, Hashem doesn’t require that we pass tests or obstacles in order to improve our relationship with Them. The whole mentality that adversity is a test sent by God to help you improve has never made sense. We suffer because people are selfish and injust. Not because we need to be punished or because we have to pass a test to prove we deserve to be close to Hashem.

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